Does My Cat Love Me? 5 Signs She Does

Cats have a bad reputation of being aloof animals who don’t show their love. But nothing could be further from the truth. 

In fact, cats form strong bonds with their human guardians and do actually *gasp* love them. 

But how can you tell if your cat loves you?

Cat love is proven through the actions your furbaby shows when she is around you. For example:

Your cat loves you if…

She holds her tail straight up in the air when she’s near you. 

Cats communicate through the position of their tails. As humans, it’s our job to learn what these different angles mean and how to decipher them. The good news is, it’s really easy to tell when your cat is happy—her tail will be straight up in the air!

A tail that is tall and confident signals that your kitty is comfortable and content. It warms my heart when my cats walk into the room, see me, and their tails spring up into this position. It means they are happy to be around me—and that they love me!

She purrs when you’re with her. 

This is probably the most obvious signal for humans to look out for when they’re trying to tell if their cat loves them. Purring is universally understood as a positive—or should I say pawsitive—action from a kitty. Usually, a purring cat signals a cat who loves where they are and who they are with!

Be mindful though that some cats do purr when they are in pain or frightened. If your kitty is purring in an unusual way, please take your cat to the vet as soon as you are able. 

She makes biscuits on or near you. 

Making biscuits, baking bread, or whatever else you call cats kneading their paws is a great way to know that your cat loves you! This sweet action is often accompanied by purring, and is a way for your cat to make herself even more comfortable than she already is. 

Believed to be a learned behavior from time with their mamas, cats knead their paws as a soothing tactic or even a way to show affection. Many will do this on a blanket or pillow, but some will choose to do this on their human! There’s truly nothing sweeter than seeing your kitty make biscuits and knowing how happy they are and how much they love you. 

She rubs on your legs. 

Anytime I’m standing and I see one of my cats come walking toward me, I stand completely still and brace for impact. That is, the impact of them rubbing on my legs! When a cat does this, they’re marking you as their territory because they love you and want you all to themself!

Some cats will do this so much that you have to be careful not to trip over them as they walk around you in tight circles. It can be inconvenient, but the sweet intentions definitely outweigh the couple of minutes spent standing still!

She spends time with you. 

The most important sign from any cat that they love you is that they choose to spend time with you. Cats can be very independent creatures. I don’t blame them—I like my alone time, too! That’s why it means so much when a cat opts to be with you. 

Whether on your lap or just in the same room, being close to you is the ultimate way for a cat to say that they trust you and love you. If your cat does choose to sit with you, remember the number one rule of cat guardianship: don’t get up until your cat does! 

Show your cat you love her. 

While it is heartwarming to know that our cats love us, it’s just as important that we let them know how much we love them! A few ways that you can show your kitty some love include:

  • Give her treats. 
  • Play with her. 
  • Pet her—but only if she wants you to!
  • Spend time with her. 

How does your cat show you that she loves you? How do you let her know that you love her? Tell us all about your experience in the comments below!

I know a lot about cats, but I’m not a veterinarian. Please don’t take any of the statements I give as medical advice and do always consult your trusted vet, especially if your cat is experiencing behavioral challenges.

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